7. Parent Responsibilities

Parents are expected to encourage their sons or daughters to perform to the best of their ability both athletically and academically. They should be a source of support for the student and the program in which they are participating. Parents should encourage their children to address issues directly with their Coach.

Parents are role models for students and representatives of AHA. As such, they are expected to exemplify good attitudes by treating all players, coaches, fans, officials and other parents with respect and dignity. Parents must insist that students abide by rules established by the Academy, the coach, and the MSHSL.

Parents should be positive in support of their own team and recognize the achievements of the opposing team. Vulgar or denigrating remarks are never appropriate.

Parents should allow their students to enjoy the benefits of competition, remembering that not everyone can be the star, be on the first team, or have equal playing time.

Keep winning and losing in perspective. Cocurricular activities are primarily designed for students to learn and have fun. Participants who do their best are to be commended even if their best isn’t good enough to win.

    1. Notify Me--to be notified of any changes to events/time/locations go to: www.trimetro.org. Click on Holy Angels and the Notify Me icon and follow the prompts.
    2. Facilities Use – Any use of the Commons/Annex or Kitchen facilities for team meetings, dinners, or banquets must be scheduled three weeks prior to the date of the activity. (Refer to the Student Handbook). Use of any other AHA building facilities must be scheduled 2 weeks prior to the date of the activity. To ensure proper facilities use and security, the Academy will firmly adhere to these deadlines. All building use is scheduled through Carolyn Arnebeck at (612) 798-2635 or carnebeck@ahastars.org. 
    3. Conflict Resolution– Procedure for Handling Activities/Athletic Complaints: In order to allow an expression of differences that may occur in athletics, a procedure has been developed for establishing a line of communication between school, parent/ guardian, students, and coaches. This procedure should follow an orderly process.
      • No conflict between a parent/guardian, student, official or coach should be addressed during or immediately following a game. The game sites, practice field, lobby or locker room is not an appropriate place to handle conflict. Coaches are not to meet or deal with conflict at these times or places. Most conflicts are better resolved with an appropriate cooling down period. The “24-hour rule” is a good rule of thumb.
      • If the issue is related to a student – coach issue, the following steps should be taken in order for the conflict to be resolved.
        • Step One:  Student meets directly with coach to express concern.  This would mean the coach on the most local level first (position coach or grade level coach).
        • Step Two:  If resolution does not occur, the student then meets with the Head Coach of the program and the local coach.
        • Step Three:  If resolution does not occur, the student, the student’s parents, and the Head Coach of the program meet.
        • Step Four:  Student, parents, Head Coach, AD meet to resolve issue.
      • If the issue is not related to unethical behavior or unprofessional behavior and is unrelated to a concern about the student-athlete, the coach should be contacted directly by the concerned party.

Group Conflict

      Group meetings will be a rare exception. Issues at Holy Angels are best settled when individuals take responsibility for their concerns and have respectful and civil conversations face-to-face on an individual basis. In the rare case that a group meeting would occur, no parent/guardian shall meet at AHA to discuss team problems without representatives from AHA to include the Activities Director or coach. At group meetings, individuals must speak for and represent themselves, not other individuals or groups. Individual meetings are preferred.


    1. Discussions related to playing time-- On the varsity level, decisions regarded to playing time will be decided by the Head Coach in consultation with his staff.  As the professional hired to perform this role, only he/she is capable of making this judgment.  For this reason, the AD and other administrators as well as the Head Coach of the Varsity Team will not engage in discussions on this issue.  Student-athletes, however, are permitted to set up appointments outside of practice times to discuss their position on the team and to receive feedback in regard to their current status. 


      On lower levels of play (Freshman, B, JV), coaches will follow school and team policies related to playing time.  If a participant feels the rules established by the school and coach about the issue on their level are not being followed, they may request to speak to the coach.
    1. Team Parents – Team parents work very closely with the coaching staff, the parents of team members, and Doris Rothstein, Team Parent Coordinator. Varsity team parents are selected in June, prior to the start of the new school year. Team parents are not necessarily the parents of Team Captains and all parents are encouraged to volunteer. Once tryouts have been completed and team rosters set, volunteers are requested by the Varsity team parents for Junior Varsity, B-Squad and Freshman team parents. Varsity team parents coordinate team sweatshirts, the year-end banquet and in general assist the Head Coach and other team parents within their program. Team parents do not deal with conflict resolution. This is the responsibility of the Athletic Director. Team parents are requested to help foster a positive spirit of support and to model the ideal of the AHA Way.


      As persons playing a leadership role on behalf of the Academy of Holy Angels, all Team Parents are expected to serve as examples to other parents in their programs in living out the mission of the school, to follow proper protocol and procedures, and to work cooperatively with the coach and administration of the school